“To understand something is one thing, but to act on it is something different entirely.”
Each verb withholds in itself “an act”, a deed, a movement, happening, energy; In regard to which verbs we come to use most frequently our reality/our life responds to them accordingly. It is important to learn “sincere/earnest (self)-expression”. No, not only grammar and the native language, god forbid the scarce school subject, but true, “from the heart” expression. Saying just that, what we truly feel each within/for ourselves. (Earnest/sincere) self-expression is very important for achieving your goals, pleasant relations and last but not least healthy wellbeing.
“But I know how to express myself already… don’t I?”
Let’s look at an example: what do you use more often: “ugh, I am so angry!” or “ugh, I feel so angry!”
Did you sense the difference in these expressions? The first one subconsciously takes into account our state of being. By doing that, we thoughtfully/logically identify our current state with the feeling of anger. See – “I am so angry”. I think it’s fair to say that you/we are much more than just the feeling of anger, even in the moment of the outburst, right? The second expression resembles the actual truth much better: “I feel angry”. We can quickly take notice that we feel something “outside of us”, only a PART of us, our entirety/wholeness. With that we come much closer to the actual truth, namely, that in the moment of sensation we merely feel an emotion/a feeling, which is nothing more than a part of everything that we truly are.
Now, in the moment of affection it is hard to divert the flow of our spontaneous (yet learned/acquired) response, of course, but looking at the bigger picture, in particular if we were subjected to such incomplete form of expression in our early childhood years, this can lead to lighter or even heavier forms of ailments/conditions/obstructions in our lives (like various forms of depression, for example; which are nothing more than the end result of identifying and/or subjecting ourselves to our emotions). What usually accommodates such occurrences is, that even our surroundings, the people around us, get involved. Then we tend to hear people say things like: “why are you so angry?” Again, looking the broader state, our immediate surroundings are usually even more generalizing and then we can hear even: “why are you always so angry?” The information of time constriction is being added on top to the already flawed perception of identifying ourselves with our emotion and our minds are set for a loop.
“So… I shouldn’t express myself at all or…”
OR, in an ideal case, the same thing can help us reflect on ourselves, so that it becomes easier for us to hear our way of expression (and potentially change it, thereafter). Nobody is always like this or always in the same state. That is just a simplified perception of our minds for the purpose of “quicker communication”. We people are highly adaptable beings and we are capable of change even from moment to moment (consciously or subconsciously).
Feelings are one of the many forms of energy
Emotions are simply forms of energy in motion, scientifically speaking (“emotion = Energy Motion”). On their own, they don’t incorporate any meaning or “purpose”. We are the ones defining those aspects, ourselves. Therefore let us learn earnest/sincere self-expression; let’s be conscious of the things we say, how we say it and what we really feel, so that we won’t need to compare ourselves with “mere bursts of energy” – with our emotions and feelings. That way, our conversations will become much more engaging, wholesome and fulfilling.
How, would you say, do you express yourself? How conscious are you about your way of expressing yourself? Do you have any examples of “proper self-expression” of your own? All stories and insights are welcomed in the replies below. Until next post, have fun playing around with using verbs and I’ll see/read you in another moment in time. 😀
Moment in time 